January 08, 2014 /24-7PressRelease/
-- Nobody should have to endure abuse in their marriage, but domestic violence is an unfortunate way of life for many Californians. According to the California Partnership to End Domestic Violence, there were 147 domestic violence murders in our state in 2011. Out of these, the vast majority were female, and over 11 percent of all homicides in the state were considered to be incidences of domestic abuse.
In order to protect themselves and their children
before they become tragic statistics such as these, it's important that abuse victims recognize the signs of abuse and get help getting out of their abusive marriages.
The most common signs of abuse
HelpGuide says that emotional and verbal abuse can be confusing and difficult to recognize as abuse at first, and these are the methods an abuser most often employs before becoming violent. An abuser will often use intimidation and fear to control his victim, sometimes threatening to harm the kids or take them away. He may also have an unpredictable temper, destroy personal property and restrict his victim from having access to the car, phone or money.
Safe Horizon says that one out of every four women will become an abuse victim at some point during her life. Realizing her partner's actions are abusive is the first step toward escaping to safety. Other methods abusers may employ include:
- Restricting the victim from seeing family and friends.
- Criticizing, putting down and shaming the victim.
- Blaming the victim on everything that goes wrong.
- Ignoring accomplishments and positive things.
Children are the most vulnerable victims of domestic abuse. When growing up in an abusive environment, kids often have problems in school and social settings, anxiety and sleep disturbances, and health and developmental issues. Girls are more likely to grow up becoming abuse victims, while boys most often grow up to become abusers themselves.
These following tips can help a victim escape from the abuser:
- Document each instance of abuse, including bruises and other physical injuries.
- Create an escape plan.
- Gather emergency cash, important documents and personal belongings, and store them somewhere safe.
- Have a strong support system of trusted family and friends.
- Learn the local emergency and crisis hotline phone numbers.
Many communities in Los Angeles have resources that include emergency housing, legal aid and support groups. It's also a good idea to get a restraining order before escaping, which can provide additional legal protection.
Getting help from an attorney
Victims of abuse need people they can trust to rally around them during the difficult steps of escaping from their abusers. An experienced divorce attorney
can be a valuable ally during this process, and can help ensure that their interests are protected.
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