January 10, 2013 /24-7PressRelease/
-- Flexibility is crucial during the divorce process
Divorcing Colorado couples know the experience of divorce can be painful and emotional. However, flexibility is important during the divorce process and minimizing emotional reactions can lead to a better outcome.
Importance of flexibility and negotiation
It is common for couples to focus on their own perceptions of unfairness during divorce proceedings--especially if bitter proceedings. Personal animosity between the parties usually intensifies the situation, and this is a common human trait. At certain times divorcing individuals can get so caught up in what they believe to be right that they fail to take a step back to identify the best options to go forward.
At times like that, couples should talk to a neutral individual such as a mediator who is not personally invested in either party. The couple must also determine if it is possible to consider the advice that is given, or if they are too preoccupied with personal resentment to listen and accept advice.
Divorcing couples must also decide what is more important: being right or being happy. Remaining flexible during the divorce negotiations enables each spouse to move on with their life and reduces a significant amount of financial and emotional stress. Couples should also realize that remaining flexible now often leads to long term benefits, such as the ability to maintain a friendly relationship with a former spouse in the future, which is crucial if children are involved
Tips for a friendly divorce
There are many ways to help guarantee a more peaceful divorce. First, let go of negative emotions such as anger, disappointment, guilt and anxiety. Additionally, attempt to build a true understanding of each party's actions that ultimately led to the divorce. Areas to explore that may have contributed to the divorce and include:
-Events that caused stress such as job loss or illnesses
-Different life stages
-Deficiencies in skills such as anger management or listening ability
Acknowledging mistakes is also necessary. Couples often exhibit the same negative behavior during the divorce process as those that caused the marriage to fail. Identify the skills missing from the marriage relationship and use them to create a positive divorce process.
Divorcing couples should also aim for somewhere between fairness and generosity in the settlement agreement. But, remember that although it is important to be flexible, do not be overly flexible. Settlements that are too generous may result in future negative consequences in the long run.
Finally, remember that divorce is a gradual process and not a one-time event. Allow time to assist the work out of feelings to eventually accept the fact that the marriage is over, learn from mistakes, and let go of the former spouse. Then, view the divorce as an opportunity to heal old wounds, grow, and build a new life.
Divorcing Colorado couples can benefit from an experienced family law attorney who can help them negotiate the legal and non-legal process of divorce.
Article provided by Harkess & Salter, LLC
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