August 29, 2013 /24-7PressRelease/
-- Divorce is emotionally difficult for everyone involved, especially children. While parents struggle with the financial impact of a divorce
, as well as the heartbreak over the end of their marriage, it may be easy to overlook what kids are going through. It's usually hard on kids to see their parents break up, especially since they love both of them and don't want to feel like they're stuck in the middle.
It's common for kids in Illinois to have divorced parents; according to the Northern Illinois University, about 23 percent of families in the U.S. are single-parent households with children under the age of 18.
Kids are more resilient than adults expect
Salon reports that research may suggest kids do better in the long run after their parents' divorce than most people would think. Kids who adjust well after divorce are usually the ones who are exposed to the least amount of parental conflict. They witness little or no conflict between their parents during and after the divorce and have the love and support of at least one parent while growing up. Belonging to a family where at least one parent is emotionally healthy and well-functioning makes the difference between a child growing up well-adjusted, or one with long-lasting emotional issues.
According to Focus on the Family, children who have trouble with their parents' divorce can develop problems in their own relationships, as well as experience continued trust issues and poor relationships with their parents. The fear of loss, failure, change and conflict are common issues with kids who haven't adjusted well to their parents' divorce.
Kids of different age groups react to divorce differently, says Psychology Today. Younger children tend to internalize their emotions and can develop regressive issues. They become less independent and can revert to outgrown behaviors, such as bed-wetting and thumb-sucking. Their trust is shaken and they may blame themselves for their parents' split. On the other hand, pre-teens and teenagers may act out and rebel after their parents' divorce. They tend to rely more on their friends for support, and may take their emotions out on their parents, blaming them for their pain.
None of these examples means that kids have to suffer long-term when their parents split up. The Huffington Post offers these tips to help children adjust:
- Encourage children to express their emotions.
- Establish new family rituals and come up with fun new traditions.
- Never speak badly about the other parent in front of the kids.
- Reassure the kids that it's okay to love both parents and they don't have to feel caught in the middle.
- If dating again, put the children's interests and needs first.
By reassuring children that they are loved and their feelings and opinions are valued, parents take an important step to set them on the right path to emotional recovery.
Child-related divorce issues such as custody
and support can be complicated, so if you're considering a divorce in Illinois, it's important to contact an experienced divorce attorney. By making the divorce process easier for you, an attorney can also help to ease the transition and make it less painful for the kids.
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