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WILMINGTON, NC, September 08, 2022 /24-7PressRelease/ -- Self-centered pride and arrogance are of special interest to those who suffer from alcohol and drug addiction. While these terms are often interchanged they, in fact, trigger different states of mind. In a recent article posted to her website, Harriet Hunter, author of the award-winning bestselling book Miracles of Recovery, offers an in-depth look at these terms as used in the rooms of recovery. In that article she said:
In an article in Psychology Today, printed June 29, 2014, Guy Winch Ph.D. writes in part:
"Psychologists distinguish between two kinds of pride.
1. Authentic pride arises when we feel good about ourselves, confident, and productive, related to socially desirable personality traits such as being agreeable, conscientious, and emotionally stable.
2. Hubristic pride sometimes referred to self-centered pride, is egotism and arrogance, and is exhibited in undesirable traits such as being disagreeable, aggressive, having low or brittle self-esteem—and being prone to shame."
WHAT ARE SOME THINGS WE CAN DO TO OVERCOME SELF-CENTERED PRIDE?
* Stop denying. Anytime we deny our truth we hurt ourselves. Denial sends the message that either we are not strong enough to find our truth or we feel we are not deserving to stand up for our truth.
* Share our truth with others so that everyone can hear in a non-threatening yet honest way.
* Admit our mistakes to others. Yes, we all make mistakes and thank goodness. If we never made mistakes, not only would we be in denial but self-centered pride would continue to keep us stuck, wearing the garb that protects the world from seeing we were not perfect.
* Give Credit where Credit is Deserved. That's right. When we were locked into the guise of pride, we would never think of deferring to others and salute their success. Why, we wanted all the glory for ourselves! We handled it all, didn't we?
It's interesting how that worked. When the show came off as planned we stood up, bowed, and took credit for every aspect. But when the show plummeted, we turned to whoever was around us pointing fingers out that it was someone else's fault things failed!
* Practice Active Listening. There is so much communication on any day whirling around us, we take for granted and pretend we are listening, when in reality, we already know how we want to respond, what it is we need to say and how we need to say it. It is as if we've cut the person off before they even finish their sentence.
* Get Rid of False Beliefs: When we do not give ourselves sufficient nurturing, it is impossible for us to see the baggage we still carry around inside us, called false beliefs. We grew up with them, who knows where they came from, parents, teachers, friends. Some false beliefs are:
◦ I've been doing it this way for years:
◦ I don't need any help, I can handle it myself;
◦ If it's not broke, don't fix it
◦ No one has ever complained before now!
◦ They'll never get rid of me, they need me too much;
* Let someone else be in charge and/or take the lead for a change. Let someone else make the decision or manage the solving of a problem.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HEALTHY AUTHENTIC PRIDE AND ARROGANCE?
* Pride is confidence, it is easy to see with confidence, how too much pride as it becomes boastful, sounds like arrogance. Arrogance is insecurity wrapped up to appear to be pride.
* Prideful individuals are aware of other people's ability and are often sensitive to their successes.
* Arrogant people, come from a place of strong indifference, are boastful and need to be heard with little concern for their choice of words.
* Proud people believe in the adage that hard work is worth the wait to success, while people with arrogance expect everything to be handed to them.
* Proud people understand their core values and sense of self. People of considered arrogance see themselves as better-than, even when and if they know they are not.
Arrogant People often:
1. Look down their nose on those they serve, or anyone different from them.
2. Beat themselves up over little mistakes. ...
3. Feel anger as their first response to human frailty.
4. Secretly manipulate, rather than openly influence others
5. Help from a high tower position of superiority
6. Cheat to win. ...
7. Consider people as objects to be used for personal gain.
8. See themselves as onimopotent
9. Judge everyone and everything
10. Have trouble admitting they were wrong.
WHAT ARE SOME THINGS WE CAN DO TO OVERCOME ARROGANCE?
When we acknowledge to ourselves that we are self-centered to the max, so arrogant that we close off our thinking from the sunlight of the Spirit, what then is our solution?
The full article is available at her website at http://www.harriethunter.org.
No matter who you are or where you are, no matter your status or position, you can recover. Alcoholics and drug addicts need support and they need tools. The support is in place, in every segment of our society, as are the necessary tools.
Harriet Hunter's bestselling book, Miracles of Recovery, is one such tool. Featuring 365-daily inspirations, Miracles of Recovery was written not just for those addicted, but for the parents, the spouses‑‑anyone touched by the disease, because addiction is absolutely a family affair. Using the foundation of 12-Step Recovery, Miracles of Recovery embraces holistic suggestions as a practical approach as we learn to face life on life's terms, clean and sober. Encouraging and thought-provoking, Miracles of Recovery inspires with Universal Truths, "Because," Harriet says, "once we know better, we do better."
Substance abuse issues have been on the increase, primarily due to the overwhelming effects of a global pandemic. The National Institute of Alcohol and Alcohol Abuse mentioned in 2018 that 88,000 people die each year to alcohol-related deaths. They go on to say that globally, alcohol misuse was the fifth leading risk factor for premature death and disability in 2010. Now these statistics look even more dire with the onslaught of the Pandemic effect: premature death, isolation, job loss and so much more.
While there are many treatment approaches and programs, what is common to successful individuals who find themselves within a substance abuse program is the shared pain and the loneliness, often with an ongoing support system for the person battling the disease. That support system is what Harriet Hunter offers in "Miracles of Recovery: Daily Meditations of Hope, Courage and Faith."
Miracles of Recovery shows through personal examples how to achieve long-term sobriety by embracing new behavior and positive reinforcement, regardless of what happens in one's life. She offers a personal, sometimes raw reflection of the truth about addiction seldom seen elsewhere.
Tools necessary to maintain sobriety and change one's life through changing one's perspective are also proposed. Miracles of Recovery suggests that readers "Do life differently," through exercises, solutions, and methods to improve self-esteem, confidence, and embrace a profound sense of hope needed to succeed. The author spurs the reader to embrace the belief that, regardless of challenges life presents, "NOTHING can change the course of recovery when you keep yourself, your sobriety, and your Higher Power first in your life." In short, Miracles of Recovery offers hope where there is none through a simple program of actions for complicated people.
Hunter has received rave reviews for her work from readers and reviewers alike. Vernita Taylor of Readers Favorite stated, "Miracles of Recovery: Daily Meditations of Hope, Courage, and Faith by Harriet Hunter is a great choice if you're struggling with addiction because it offers a full year of inspiration and affirmations which I enjoyed. I see this book as a mentor or sponsor that is walking by your side and helping to lead you to a better, more improved you while teaching you how to deal with your stressors. The best teacher is someone who has been there and done that, and this book doesn't disappoint. The author knows first-hand what it takes and how it feels to be addicted. If you need help along your journey, pick up a copy of this book; it's highly recommended."
Anthony Capozzolli of Dismantled Life Podcast said, "Miracles of Recovery has been a feast for my recovering soul. Every page is filled with love and helpful insights that lead to discovery. I read each page by date and randomly turn to other pages for an additional spiritual hug when I need one. It's almost as if Harriet wrote her wonderful book for me. Page after page hits so close to home I often tear up from positive awareness and clarity of emotion." Readers can find more 5-Star reviews from others on Amazon.
Miracles of Recovery received the first place President's Award in nonfiction from the Florida Authors and Publishers Association.
Since her walk into recovery in 1999, Harriet has had one primary purpose: to show others how they can find hope and achieve their miracles while staying sober with a vision and determination to never go backwards, one day at a time.
Using her experience strength and hope, Harriet strives to be a conduit of hope and encouragement to others in their addictions, by showing them what continues to work for others. With practical tools, principles and promises as found in A.A., and other 12-step programs, she mirrors examples of how anyone can be free from the bondage of self, regardless of their situation.
With each purchase of a personalized autograph copy of Miracles of Recovery from her website, Hunter provides a no-charge copy of her e-book, "Your Daily Reprieve; How To Maintain Long-Term Sobriety Serenely Just For Today" in PDF format.
Details are available at her website at https://harriethunter.org/product/miracles-of-recovery-autographed-paperback-2/
Harriet Hunter is available for media interviews and speaking engagements and can be contacted using the information below or by email at [email protected]. More information, including the journaling course, no-charge audios, e-books, handouts and other gifts can be found by visiting https://www.harriethunter.org.
About Harriet Hunter:
With over 23 years of sobriety, Harriet has worked with hundreds of women who suffer with alcoholism and drug addiction to help them find peace in active sobriety, and sponsors women both face-to-face and online. Readers can find her in the global recovery site, Intherooms.com, where she's been given her own room and brings Miracles to life each Sunday at 2:00 P.M. EST.
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